Thursday, July 1, 2010

The day I've been dreading

July 1, 2010. A day I've been dreading for over a year now. Shaun started his new job today. He finished his cardiology fellowship at the Cleveland Clinic and is now doing a one year interventional specialty fellowship in Michigan. That's right folks, Michigan. He is working at a hospital outside of Detroit. He got the position in February of 2009. We've known it was coming. We debated on whether to put our house up for sale and move for just a year. To a place where we don't know anybody. After I got pregnant with Claire I thought about selling our house, packing up, and moving 2 hours away for just a year. Not to mention doing all of this with a 2 year old and 4 month old to care for. The thought of it was exhausting and seemed like a daunting task. We talked and talked and talked about it and finally decided that Shaun would stay in Michigan during the week and come home on weekends. Ideal? Not by any stretch of the imagination.

There were many reasons for our decision to do it this way but mainly because I didn't want to move away to another strange place with no support system. Here we have friends and neighbors. Wonderful people that I can call for anything if I need them. The cost of moving our entire house would have been more than to pay for a place for Shaun to stay there for an entire year. Oh yeah, and it's Detroit. Yuck. Sorry if any of my readers are from there but the parts that I saw, I did not enjoy.

So here I am, at the start of a year where I am alone with the girls all week. I'm fairly used to being on my own with them part of the time because Shaun has been working 2-3 nights a week overnight here for the past few years. But four nights in a row? Lord, give me strength. During the day it's not so bad. Evenings are the hardest. Dinner, baths, bedtime, oh my! I have to give it up to single moms or anyone else who husband travels or is out of town alot. It's not easy. July won't be so bad because the girls and I are going to California and Arizona for most of the month. Be sure to check back with me about the second week of August though because I may just be out of my mind by then!

So expect more posts from me because we will need to keep daddy updated on all that's going on here.

And babe, if you're reading this, I love you so much. Thank you for all you do for our family. I am so unbelievably proud of you and all that you have accomplished. I know it is a huge sacrifice for you to be away from your girls but we will be coming to see you often and we will make the most of every second you are home. One more year and you are DONE! We love you!!

9 comments:

Grammy said...

I know it's going to be hard on all of you. If it gets to be too much, I'm only a phone call away. I'll be on a plane to Cleveland so fast that it will make your head spin!! Love you!!

Band of Brothers said...

oh jenn! that is tough!

i was by myself all day yesterday while john was at a ball game and now have new-found respect for single moms. if ever i get a chance, i will watch her kids so she can grocery shop in peace! i had to take all 4 boys to trader joes and we were quite the spectacle. little old ladies kept coming up to me giving me a hug and saying "bless your heart".

Ashley said...

I'm so sorry! Ya'll are in my prayres;) ((HUGS))

Kelli said...

You can do it!!!! Ha, my mom used to work at the Cleveland Clinic...memories. Can I go to Arizona with you?

Sally said...

I've threatened B to NEVER leave me a single mom. I seriously don't know how they do it. I hope this year goes smoothly for you!! I'm excited for the following year when you get to settle someone for a LONG time! =)

Controlling My Chaos said...

It sounds like it's going to be a challenging year for you, but I bet it will zoom by. Just take it one day at a time.

Agnes said...

Wow...I am impressed. I hate doing evenings by myself at all. Jason is going out of town for a conference next week and my mom is flying out to help me.

But, you do what you have to do and I agree that it sounds like a better option than moving. I'm sure you'll get into a routine and you'll do great! Just keep the cocktails ready for once the babies are in bed!

Allison said...

Uhg Jenn! Talk about a rock and a hard place. I know you girls will miss Shaun but will survive. You are so organized-but don't let yourself get too exhausted! I am so impressed and inspired by your love for each other and the things you two do for each other-stay strong!

Talia said...

oh wow, I can only imagine. You will for sure be in my prayers as you adjust to this all. You're such an amazing mom, and I know you'll be able to handle it!

How exciting though, that your husband is getting so close to being done with all of this. It must feel like the home stretch!