Wednesday, May 11, 2011

Potty Training Success!

Well, time to catch everyone up on what's been going on in our lives. I've been slacking for 2 months so there are a few posts coming to play catch up. First, I thought I would start with the best thing to happen to me since...well, pretty much ever. Julianne is potty trained. We finally had success on her 3rd birthday (the day of her birthday). As I've posted before, I was beyond frustrated that she wasn't potty trained yet. I tried 4 previous times.

The first time was right before Claire was born...Julianne was only 22 months old...this attempt is also known as what the he** was I thinking? FAIL.

The second time involved Shaun and I trying for one day and going cold turkey and just putting her in big girl panties to see how it went. This lead to Julianne peeing in about 10 pairs of panties within an hour and anytime she would get even a drop on them she would scream and say "I'm all wet". FAIL.

The third time she screamed every time I put her on the potty. FAIL

The fourth time was in December. My parents were visiting for Christmas and I thought it would be better to try when someone else was here to help out. We were making good progress because she pooped on the potty at about noon that day. Yes, that's right. I have a kid who pooped on the potty before she peed on it. She was terrified to pee on it. So much so that she held her pee all day that day and was screaming in pain by that evening because her belly was so bloated. She cried on the potty and eventually fell asleep on the potty and every time she would start to fall asleep, she would have to go potty because she was relaxing. She would then wake up and cry again. I then had a complete and total mommy breakdown because I felt like I was causing my own child pain. Why? So she would pee on the pot. Totally not worth it. FAIL.

We then decided to take a different approach. About a month before her 3rd birthday, we started telling her that when she turned 3 that meant she was going to be a big girl and she would be too big for diapers. We said things like "they don't make diapers for 3 year olds", "3 year olds go on the potty", "we're going to say bye bye to diapers when you turn 3", and many other things. Pounded it into her brain for a month. Then, the day before her birthday she woke up and said "I'm going to wear big girl panties today because I am almost 3". The rest, as they say, is history. I made her a sticker chart, gave her M&M's every time she went on the potty and it worked. She was ready. Finally. Of course, it's now 2 months later and she still wants M&M's every time she goes. Working on that. She's only had about 4 accidents in two months and I am so very proud of her. She just got it. If only I had just waited and done this approach I could have saved myself all that frustration of the previous four times. Lesson learned.

Julianne is still wearing a diaper overnight because well, the kid sleeps for 12 hours and I don't know anyone who can hold it that long. I think we'll work on that after we move this summer and she switches to her big girl bed. We were going to switch her now but the house is on the market and her room looks much bigger with a crib than a full sized bed in it! :)

So my potty training advice for anyone is this: don't force it. A kid will go on the pot when they are ready and it's not worth torturing them or yourself trying to force it before they are ready. There seems to be so much pressure today to have a kid potty trained so early (have you heard of these people who are potty training newborns? Say what?) Just know that your little one will go when they are ready. And also, it will be the happiest day of your life. Seriously.

I'd post a picture of her first poop on the potty because OMG, we were so proud, but it's kinda gross. So, I settled for sending it to several family members and my best friend after taking a picture of it with my phone. You know someone is a good friend when you send them a picture of your kids poo and they squeal with delight!

So there is your first update. Julianne is potty trained. Hallelujah and Amen!


Gerri said...

Yay Julianne!! That was my least favorite part of parenting and always a relief when it was over.

bandofbrothers said...

congratulations! so happy for you all. major major accomplishment!